One of the most essential lessons I learned this past year was the difference between acceptance and approval.
Acceptance DOES NOT EQUAL approval.
- Accepting I can’t always make everyone happy does not equal feeling good when I don't.
- Accepting I can’t change other people and I can only change myself does not equal support of their behavior.
- Accepting my daughter has moved out does not equal approving of her decision.
- Accepting my father has died does not equal feeling okay with this truth.
- Accepting my mother is with him in heaven does not equal approval of God’s decision.
The year 2015 will be about fulfilling Reinhold Niebuhr’s quote “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
With this in mind I would like to move towards accomplishing the following things in 2015. I may not achieve all of these things to my perfection, but I am okay with this. I feel energized just thinking about all the possibilities. Personal growth happens during the journey, not when we cross the finish line.
At the top of my mind, tip of my heart and the spark of my nerves, this is what I think about when I imagine what I want to happen 2015. At a later time I will define HOW….
- Race. I don’t know if that means triathlons or half marathons, but I do know that having a race in my future keeps me focused. More importantly, working through the challenge always makes me feel proud.
- Prioritize my nutrition. Spend time understanding and eliminating all the allergens that make me feel terrible. This means changing my relationship with food and fighting the urge to replace one addiction with another.
- Spend less time on my phone, lost in social media, distracting me from what is important.
- Focus on Austin’s life after high school (SAT course, SAT test, ACT course, ACT test, college visits, meeting with counselors, umpire training, budgeting, summer job).
- Find ways to foster Ryanne’s talents (voice lessons, musicals, 5th Avenue workshops).
- Create moments and memories that continue to strengthen Ryan and my relationship.
- Clean out the clutter. Get rid of what I don’t use or don’t need. Minimize and simplify.
- Read…a lot.
- Say 'NO' to the things I really don't want to do and the things that keep me from reaching my personal goals.
Let the journey begin!!!!