Jill: Good ways!!!
Ryan: Good ways? Well, you’ve really made me appreciate a full refrigerator.
I feel more healthy and active. I was somewhat active before we started dating, but since then I’ve definitely taken on a much more active lifestyle.
[There was a long pause…but the second answer was really good when it finally arrived.]
Ryan: I think philosophically you’ve changed the way in which I view my own life and the way I gauge my own happiness. You’ve encouraged me through your example to be more contemplative, to think about things on a pretty deep level in terms of what does success, what does happiness, what do achievements mean and how do relationships factor into those things.
I would have been a very different person as to the way in which I pursued my job and gauged my own success or failure. I think you’ve given me a much healthier outlook in which I judge myself.
You know, I’ve always struggled with always trying to be a perfectionist and I think that because you are so imperfect…
[Jill cracking up]
Jill: Keep talking….my imperfections and your perfections…
Ryan: No seriously…it’s helped me be a more grounded person, someone who I like more than I may have turned out to be.
Jill: Ahhh…That’s so nice.
Jill: People often say opposites attract. From face value some might say we seem like opposites. Such as, in social situations I can be more gregarious and you can be pretty quiet. The reality is, I don’t think we are opposite at all. I think we actually share a lot of similar traits.
Ryan: I think we both tend to be people pleasers. While our reactions to groups of people and crowds can be different I think at the same time we both enjoy and prefer smaller and more intimate groups, rather than larger settings of people.
Jill: What other personality traits do we have that are similar?
Ryan: I think we both find the same things funny. Definitely sense of humor.
Jill: How are we different from one another?
Jill: Ooh...I know one. You hold your cards pretty close to your chest. Right? You will be pretty open when you know someone, versus I put everything out there on the blog, and I will share openly with someone in the lunch room.
Ryan: What’s funny though? You say that, and superficially I think that’s generally true. You will be more apt to share things and talk through things. I still feel like there are still things you hold very close to your heart that you wouldn’t necessarily share with just anyone.
You will share things more quickly and to a certain point, but I don’t think you completely reveal yourself diametrically opposed to me who shows nobody anything.
Jill: Aside from me, the kids and Milo, tell me about your other favorite things.
Ryan: I love running. There is something about running that is rejuvenating for me. There are many times I don’t feel like running. It’s raining outside, or its cold, or I’m tired or it’s been a long day at work, but then I feel 10x better after I go for a run. My head feels clear. I feel energized. I get so much from running. It is an important part of who I am.
Jill: On average, how many miles per week do you run?
Ryan: A big week will be 70+ miles and then an off week will be 45-50 miles.
Jill: Me too!!
Ryan: Is that commuting??
Jill: Yes, in my car.